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The Capital Times The Weekend of Aug. 16-17, 1997 12A Engagements, Anniversaries Pastor: Teen chastity catching on Engagements Weddings Peter and Margaret Fauerbach Zoeller-Fauerbach from our culture, said Ross. But here is what they will not hear. They will not hear anyone clearly say that it is morally wrong for them to have sex before they are married. And they wont hear anyone explain the painful emotional and spiritual consequences of that decision to become sexually active.

No one is telling kids about the cost of forming that kind of bond and then ripping it apart. Nevertheless, pro-chastity leaders believe they are making progress. About 300 people recently gathered in Washington, D.C., for a summit meeting sponsored by the Medical Institute for Sexual Health in Austin, Texas. One topic of discussion was a new set of government statistics showing that, in 1995, 50 percent of girls ages 15 to 19 said theyd had sex. That was down from 55 percent in 1990 the first drop since 1970.

At the same time, birth rates fell 8 percent and abortions declined among teens. There is no way to prove this had anything to do with programs such as True Love Waits, which is known for its media-friendly events such as the 1994 posting of 211,000 pledge cards in Washington, D.C., or a 1995 rally with 350,000 cards stacked in Atlantas Georgia Dome. Last year, 400,000 students took part in Valentines Day activities and the 1998 goal is student-led programs in 56,000 secondary schools. The projects most symbolic work takes place in churches, where teens often sign pledge cards in rites that include gold rings signs to remain chaste until marriage. Its crucial, said Ross, that congregations become more involved in complex issues linked to sexuality such as crisis pregnancies and the fact that signing a pledge card often isnt the end of the story.

But some clergy continue to duck sexual issues because theyre afraid to offend grown-up sinners who happen to be married, divorced or single. Truth is, churches that cant talk about sin and repentance cant talk about healing and forgiveness. By Terry Mattingly Scripps Howard News Service It was two or three years ago that some of the teen-sex statistics began to dip, followed by telltale ripples in mass media. Suddenly, people didnt laugh so hard when youth minister Richard Ross and other True Love Waits leaders told kids they could find romance and intimacy through lifelong fidelity. A few people began using words like chastity without smirking.

And the telephone calls picked up, from the likes of CNN and Nightline, USA Today and the New York Times, Vogue and Playboy. A few virgins showed up in prime time. The good news was that there were signs of change. The bad news was that things didnt change very much. The result was usually a more nuanced version of the gospel of sexual freedom.

Maybe true love waits for a year or two or true love waits until a guy whispers the magic word commitment. What the culture is saying these days is that abstinence is an option teenagers should pay attention to, said Ross, one of the founders of the Southern Baptist Conventions True Love Waits program. Young people are no longer being told, outright, that theyre strange and weird if they choose abstinence. You may even see some signs that the media and politicians are willing to affirm kids who make that choice. Saving sex until marriage is now an option.

But there are, of course, many other options. The message written between the lines of most sex education texts is this: Wait until after high school. Meanwhile, Hollywood has offered a few cautionary sermons on promiscuity. But sex and romance divorced from marriage remain at the heart of most scripts. Young people today are hearing many messages Margaret Ann Zoeller and Peter Bennett Fauerbach were married July 20.

She is the daughter of Marjorie L. Zoeller, Madison, and the late Allen T. Zoeller. He is the son of the late Karl Pribnow Fauerbach and the late Barbara Ann Barnes Fauerbach. She is a graphic artist for Knowledge Unlimited.

He is a health care consultant. Sonja Brown and Rod Tarrago Brown-Tarrago Announcement is made of the engagement of Sonja Sue Brown and Rod Tarrago. She is the daughter of Carl and Brenda Brown, Waunakee. His parents are Juan Ramon Tarrago, Mexico City, and Elizabeth Gonda-Simpson, Vancouver, B.C. An April 18, 1998, wedding in Asbury Methodist Church is being planned.

She is a graduate of the UW-Madison and he is a graduate of California Polytechnic State University. Both are attending the UW Medical School. Burgos-King Mayra Patricia Cruz Burgos and Andre David King were married July 13 in Cornerstone Family Church, Des Moines, Iowa. She is the daughter of Dagoberto Cruz and Florinda Consuelo Burgos, Honduras, Central America. He is the son of Wayne and Loraine King, Cottage Grove.

She has a degree in primary education. He has a degree in psychology and social work from the UW-Eau Claire, and is a new accounts representative for First Federal Savings. Hellenbrand- Marcouiller Announcement is made of the marriage of Jodi Lee Hellenbrand and Jeffrey John Marcouiller on April 26 in St. Johns Catholic Church, Waunakee. She is the daughter of James and Florence Hellenbrand, Waunakee.

His parents are Gerald and Mary Marcouiller, Green Bay. A wedding trip to northern Wisconsin was taken. Both have degrees in wastewater management from the UW-Stevens Point. She is service coordinator for Hellenbrand Water Conditioners. He is a field techni- Meinholz-Mortenson cian for National Environmental Testing.

Moving Sale Were Moving. Save up to an Additional 50 on Selected Items. Sale and Alice Chandler Chandler-Torti Bill and Mary Chandler, Madison, announce the engagement of their daughter, Alice Cameron Chandler, to Obasi Ufere Torti, son of Dr. Torti U. and Geraldine Torti, Madison.

A July 3, 1998, wedding at the Monona Terrace Convention Center is planned. She is a student at the UW-Madison. He attended MATC and is an auto body technician. Brenda Meinholz and Peter Mortenson Jr. were married Aug.

9 in St. Kunegunda, Sugar Camp, Wis. She is the daughter of Lloyd and Mary Meinholz, Waunakee. His parents are Peter and Jean Mortenson, Madison. She has a degree in accounting from Edgewood College, and is a controller for CES International.

He has a degree in political science from the UW-Madison, and is branch manager for in Oregon. Anniversaries Rubins Scandinavian 678 S. Whitney Way 274-5575 10-8 Sat. 10-5 Sun. Noon-5 Cloyance and Joan Zentner Zentners of Belleville fete golden anniversary Cloyance Clancy and Joan Jo Zentner, Belleville, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary with a reception at 2 p.m., with dancing from 3 to 6 p.m., Sunday, Aug.

17, at the New Gla-rus Hotel, New Glarus. All relatives and friends are invited. No formal invitations are being sent. The couple requests no gifts. Zentner and Joan Schmelzer were married Aug.

15, 1947, In Madison. Their children are Kay Hale, Clinton, and Jane Rae, Maus-ton. They have three Betty and Robert Stoltenberg Stoltenbergs will celebrate 50 years Robert and Betty Stoltenberg, Arlington, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary with a family dinner hosted by their children Aug. 20 at the Arlington Community Center. Stoltenberg and Betty Donkle were married Aug.

20, 1947, in Windsor Congregational Church, Windsor. Their children are Dennis, Denver, Don and Roland, both of DeForest; Roger, Token Creek; and Debra Hooker, Windsor. One son, Ralph, Ls deceased. They have six Alma and Les Vale Vales of Sun Prairie to mark 50 years Les and Alma Vale, Sun Prairie, will celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary with an open house hosted by their children from 1 to 4 p.m. Saturday, Aug.

23, at Our Saviors Lutheran Church, Sun Prairie. All friends and relatives are invited. Vale and Alma Haarklau were married Aug. 30, 1947, in DeFor-est. Their children are Russ, Montana; Alice Lenihan, Madison; Jean Boyle, Janesville; and Carol Walton, Waunakee.

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